The name Neither/Both comes from my experience with identity exploration. As a Mixed-Race child, I never felt Black or White enough, which contributed to an identity wrapped up in not belonging. As an adult, I traveled half-way across the world to Lagos, Nigeria to meet my father's family and gain a better understand myself. Expecting to find the completion of my identity, I instead found that I didn't really feel Nigerian, or Black, or White. Exploration brought a sense of understanding and empathy for all the life circumstances that made me who I am.
-Lola Osunkoya, MA, LPCC
Founder, Neither/Both LLC
What is Complex Identity?
The intersections of race, culture, gender, and sexuality can produce a complex set of needs when they don't fit neatly into the typical binaries. At Neither/Both LLC, the term complex identity is used to refer to people whose identities don't fit neatly within monoracial groups such as mixed/multiracial, and transracial and transnational adoptees, as well as people whose gender and sexual identities expand outside traditional binaries. I'm also very interested in working with poly/enm relationship structures and identities. I can hold a lot of complexities and intersections!
Mission and Vision
The mission of Neither/Both LLC is to facilitate healing for people with complex identities through expanded knowledge and acceptance of self, improved communication with others, and a deepened sense of belonging.
The vision of Neither/Both LLC is based on its core values:
Believing in the integrity of our community - trusting that you are who you say you are
Developing a more robust conversation around complex identities
Creating inclusive healing spaces
Building a sense of belonging